How to reframe expectations for growth

Many parents wish to have better abilities TODAY. More patience, more empathy, better communication skills, and the list goes on.

We want to show up in the best way we can for our kids. 

But oftentimes, when we don’t see an ability at the level we want it to be, we get frustrated, impatient and angry. 

On our journey to cultivate learning and growth at home, we need to learn how to see things differently.  

Neuroscience teaches us that the brain can’t develop a new ability quickly. It takes time and practice. In addition, unrealistic expectations can create stress, which inhibits learning.  

In the same way you wouldn’t expect a newborn to start walking or a seed you just planted to show sprouts within a day, you need to give yourself the space to grow too. 

So what can we do about it? Practice Noticing & Reframing. 

Becomers weekly challenge:  

Take 5-10 minutes a day to notice moments of frustration, impatience, or anger and explore ways to reframe them for learning and growth.

Notice: 

  • Is the reason you are getting frustrated, angry, or impatient at home because you wish you showed up better as a parent?
  • What parenting ability or skill would you like to see improvement in?
 
Reframe for growth: It’s not there yet, but it will.
  • How can you take this ability or skill to the next level?

 

Are you up for the challenge? Let me know how it goes.

 

Ready to bring the growth mindset home? Dive in and read the latest article: 

Growth Mindset: what it is and why it’s important for parents’ growth   

 

The parent you want to be is MADE, not born.

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